Is my Jacket Expensive?

Let’s talk. Wealth. Rich and Poor. While we teach our children to value what is inside of themselves: the who of what they are. Their being. Their essence. Others from outside will influence them or try to belittle them or what they care about at times, without even knowing it themselves. It tugs at their heart and their soul. Ours, too, just a little bit until we get the jolt back into what matters most. People. Relationships. Experiences. Memories. Time. Talent. Treasure.

Our son asked, “Hey mom, is my jacket expensive?” Quite frankly, it doesn’t even matter. These things, no matter the cost won’t matter in the next five minutes or even in the next five years. If it won’t matter in the next minutes, months or even years: who cares. It’s not the jacket but the memories we make in it that truly matter. While most of society will try to convince you that your worth is determined by what you have on, in real real reality, it doesn’t. What your life depends on is who you are, who you surround yourself with and what you care about. So, take care of yourself, others and your surroundings/your space then it ripples outward and onward changing lives for the better.

So, how much does your life cost? How much value and worth? Are you living poor in mindset? Have the courage to change it before it’s far too late. Don’t live for a too die for house. Don’t live for a too die for car.

Live for a too die for life.

Collect memories. Not things. Collect the times. Spend time well. Treasure it. We all have time, talent and treasure. It is how you define it. No one else. Love life. Live it well. Make it a life well spent. Spend life well. The currency is always strong when passionately and poetically lived.

The Power of Love and Healing (Deep Work=Deep Breaths)

“One can only travel the long way into the heart of another: the slow work of finding common ground, the careful discernment of grounds of admiration, the disciplines of kindness, encouragement, silence, and restraint. It takes a deliberate choice, renewed regularly, to love every human being one encounters.” (Zena Hitz)

If it’s worth it, it will not be easy… something like that Bob Marley said. A monk was also quoted previously in response to this question:

“What’s the hardest part about being a monk?” He said, “Other monks”.

What’s the hardest part about life and love?

Other people.

Isn’t that funny? Other people. We do not have control. We have control only over oneself. Only of ourselves and how we respond or how we do not respond to others.

They say the highest form of flattery is gossip. If you find yourself trembling off the lips of another it’s truly none of your business. Monks do not talk much as it’s well known. There is a reason for that. Self-discipline and restraint. Choose not to judge and just respect the journey we are all walking.

Loving, guiding, whispering, petals of a flower as delicate as the work of our hands whether they are rough or smooth. Show your hands and it will show me your work.

Follow the palmar flexion creases on your hands. Your hands are your life’s and love’s work.

What you choose to do with your hands is your life’s work.

If you wreak havoc and chaos. If you choose to hit and harm, it is never, ever forgotten and permanently stored somehow, someway into the deep recesses of one’s mind. Memories are stored deep and remembered. Never forgotten. We all are patients of our own memories. Choose to love and be gentle even if someone sees it as a weakness. Because, in fact, it is strength. Gentleness is strength. If someone hurt you, you forgive them but move on. You do not have to forget. Lessons are in it. You learn what not to accept. You learn what not to do. You learn the lessons life dishes out and deals. You remember, forgive and you move on. Let it move you to dance. To sing. To read. To draw. To write. To paint. To act. To create. Scream love.

The [Heart, Mind, Brain and…] Body Keeps the Score always. A must read book is The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk M.D., found here: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score

…remember while it’s a long way into someone else heart, it’s also a long way into your own heart. It is a deliberate choice to love yourself just the way you are.

Lean on Me…

Lean on me…

When you’re not strong.

There are so many songs that epitomize love, reliance and resilience. This one is one of my favorites.

We fall. We get back up sometimes on our own or with someone else’s help.

Then, the beautiful purpose of falling down is to help someone else up along the way.

What did you do for the month of February? And, most importantly, the months prior and leading up to this month and after it, what are you planning?

How do you show and share your love? How do you receive love?

What are your love languages? Quality time? Gift giving? Service to others? Affirmations? Physical touch? A little bit of all of them?

Love a little, a lot. Love a lot, a little.

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In the words of someone I love. ” Love you to the end of the alphabet... [and beyond it] “. Here are the abcs filled with love, light and affirmations. Cheers to speaking life and love over each other and our children.

A for amazing and astounding.

B for brave, bold and beautiful.

C for courageous, considerate, compassionate and caring.

D for determined and dedicated.

E for evolving and energetic.

F for fabulous and fun!

G for giving and getting.

H for healing and health.

I for intelligent, inspiring and insightful.

J for joyful and jazzy.

K for knightly and kind.

L for loving and learning.

M for masterpiece and magnificent.

N for neat, nice, natural and neverending!

O for observant and ongoing.

P for precious, persevering and playful.

Q for quissential, quaint and quirky!

R for resilient, respectful and ready for life!

S for special and sweet.

T for talented, timeless, thoughtful, tactful and tenacious.

U for ubiquitous, unique, unconditional, unbeatable, ultimate and unabashed!

V for valorous, valuable, venerable, vast, versatile and valiant.

W for wise and wonderful.

X for xenial and xylographic.

Y for yogi, yielding, yaring and youthful.

Z for zingy, zestful, zany and zen.

Next time, sing with me!

Ps. Love you, all 26 letters!

Deck the Halls with Lots of Love and Play

Need ideas for the holiday season? When I am fresh out of ideas, I tend to start with the people and places we love. Whether near or far, inspiration can be found everywhere and lead to anywhere.  

We were counting all of the letters of the alphabet. I hear, “Mom, I love you, all the letters of the alphabet.”

Love is everywhere. In little moments and in the meaningful conversations whether we know in the moment they are meaningful or not. Even “small talk” could lead to “big talk”. In fact, it is all big in the grand scheme of this one precious and wild life.

The timeless adage still rings true. Don’t spend money. Spend time. Time with those you love. What is at the core of each and every single one of us is this: Time, Talent and Treasure.

Ask those you love what they would love to do with the time you all have? Dare yourself to be pulled into the moment.

They and it will all surprise you. When we ask…, we get at that heart of what the other person cares about.

Some ideas, actions and answers that sprang up and out of boredom and inspired by an ask of:

Q: “What do you want to do?”

A: “I want to go to the car wash!”

A: “Let’s count the stars.”

A: “Write a book.”

A: “Watch tv”

A: “Can we add soap to the trampoline and jump?! Soap party!”

A: “Make a cat house?!”

A: “Play a game” (ie board game or action packed game of tag!)

A: “Play chase us with the remote control cars!”

A: “Ride our go karts.”

A: “I want to make a fart fort!”

A: “I want a piggy back ride!”

A: “I want to fight!”

A: “I want to climb.”

A: “I want to roll!”

A: “I want to swing!”

A: “Knock, knock…(I want to laugh!)”

…the answers are endless. Let it be. Let them play. Let yourself play. Shhhh, listen, let them tell you. Open your eyes, let them show you. Open your arms. Hug it out. xoxoxo

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Notes of A Grateful-Hearted Teacher and Life-Long Learner

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I was feeling grateful while reading an article that reflected on whether teaching was stunting other passions by Patrick Harris. Throughout it, I felt affirmed and validated in my own decade and a half experience from being busy all of the time to finding the time for the other things I care deeply about such as writing and creating. Read more from the article that inspired this one below:

Teaching just like receiving an “F” or a zero on a paper can literally “suck the life out of you” in the words of Rita Pierson but a “plus two” or being in pursuit of your passions / what you care about can fill you back up a bit.

The dilemma all comes down to having no time to pursue the other things that you love.

The top three for me are: reading, creating and travel. 

That is what I intend to keep on doing. 

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Fly a Kite and other adventures to have on Windy, Rainy Cold Days

It’s windy. It’s rainy. You have a handful of kids or what feels like a handful. What to do?

  1. Fly a Kite
  2. Collect & measure the Rain using measuring tape, legos, blocks, or even yourself! Does it go past your ankles? Does it go past your wrist? Does it go past your elbow? Does it go past your pinky? Your fingers?
  3. Make a wind chime using recyclables
  4. Jump in puddles
  5. Draw using chalk and notice how it changes into pastel
  6. Make forts with blankets, pillows anything you could think of!
  7. Water play: make magical potions
  8. Shaving cream kind of day! Add food coloring for pops of color.
  9. Paint using water color
  10. Paint on the windows using water drops: have water drop races on the windows
  11. Make rainwater paintings with puddles!
  12. Build using wood, legos, recyclables: whatever your brain thinks up!
  13. Read and act out your favorite books
  14. Karaoke: sing your favorite songs.
  15. Yoga (Kid version!)
  16. Nothing. Get bored and see where it takes you & what could be created.

99 Books of Pages on the Walls: Top Ten Children’s Fall Books to Fall into

Hello Fall. How I’ve missed you. I love the Fall (the book by Albert Camus) But especially, the season. Goodbye Summer. The leaves are falling down. Red, Yellow, Orange and Brown,…the leaves are falling down. Goodbye Summer. Hello Fall. The crisp is not only in the crunch of the leaves but also in the air. Chilly-Crisp the kind of weather love to read a book in.

Here are my top 10 books for children for this season followed by a reading challenge. Comment yours below if you’d like.

  1. I Like Pumpkins by Jerry Smath
  2. Where the Wild Things Are by Mercer Meyer
  3. Abiyoyo by Pete Seeger (all seasons really!)
  4. Happy Halloween Biscuit by Alyssa Satin Capucilli
  5. Leaf Man by Lois Ehlert
  6. Goodbye Summer, Hello Autumn by Kenard Pak
  7. The Scarecrow by Beth Ferry
  8. Too Many Pumpkins by Linda White
  9. The Leaf Thief by Alice Hemming
  10. The Giant Carrot by Jan Peck

Fall Book Challenge to Fall into. Get your Read on….

  1. A book with Fall colors red, yellow, orange and brown (on the front cover and inside).
  2. A book about a ghost, scarecrow, giant, witch or monster.
  3. A book about fall foods.
  4. A book about leaves.
  5. A book featuring fall songs (bonus: sing together!)
  6. A book about pumpkins and gourds
  7. A book showing the change of seasons
  8. A chapter book featuring any or all of the challenges 😉

****Heads up: Many of the books on the challenge are listed in the top ten. 🙂 Happy Reading! Love, light and change your way.

Who’s There?

It all starts at the foundation. What I like to call The Floor.

Has anyone ever experienced McDonald’s floors? You need slip resistant shoes for them. But there is always the possibility to still slip and fall. Like life. Then, you get back up. Learn the lessons. Notice the patterns. Keep moving, ebbing and flowing like the ocean. Always in a process of becoming.

Those that lie with dogs rise with fleas. Yes and no.

You do become like the people you surround yourself with.

I have been fortunate enough to be surrounded by the go getters, the people who get stuff done for their business, families, friends and for their soul. 

They inspire me each and every day. I am humbled by the magnitude of their strength and their soul. We are a soul family. For real. 

They didn’t choose to listen to dogma, complain or even echo the cliche: “whoa is me“, or even list their sacrifices and grievances, instead they did something about it. The trials and tribulations they took as learning lessons and stepping stones leading up to their greatness way of a whole being. in the making. 

I bear witness. A dear friend turns and flips homes into Schools of Love helping to put the generational fire of addiction to ash for good. It starts with our youth. It starts with love.

Or another dear friend and soul sister who dared to open up her own school and name it after her grandmother, someone who had impacted and imprinted her childhood in a profound and endearing way. Legacy living on and on.

Another one, who from the moment I stepped foot into a classroom made me fall in love with Early Childhood Education. She had me notice the little things. It all started at a hug. A hug and a hello. She sees the humanity and the importance of relationships. That’s what it all comes down to. Love. Love. Love. Light, coupled by care and then, like alchemic magic, the rest handles itself.

Sometimes people don’t see their own value and their own worth. Another dear one, made me see my worth and negotiate to get what I deserve and continues to negotiate on the behalf of others.

Our students and children also have dreams and struggle with worth, self-efficacy and self-fulfilling prophecies. Sometimes they need a gentle or even loud reminder. A soft push to see the power in themselves. We are always in a process of becoming. Our process never ever ends even in the so-called death and dying part of it.

Another dear human who founded and runs an organization chose to empower her community and generations to follow. Breaking and dismantling poverty during and after war.

Then I met another remarkable person who on a soul level I knew she was changing lives. Discovery Center. Check it out.

I have bore witness to great ones who don’t step on the giants or on the shoes of others but walks like one in their own soles for their soul. No one likes to be stepped on. Ask ants. It messes up their whole flow. 

They walk like giants. 

They deeply inspired me to dig a little deeper and dance my own dance.

For real life, we’re all here walking and dancing each other home. Thank you for taking my hand everyone and dancing, singing, our ways home all while screaming love. 

That’s the thing we have to keep shouting. Love. In the words of a dear one: L O V E. Wins. Every. Single. Time.

Making it loud and clear: L O V E. 

You’ll Get it as You Go

“You’ll get it as you go.” said the nurse as we waited in the hospital.  

Wanting to run to the store for her.

She said, “Don’t worry, you’ll get it as you go.”

We made the list to run to the store…

Diapers. 

Bottles.

Wipes.

Formula. 

Onesies.

Pacifiers.

Things only later that we discovered we could get as we go. We’ll never have enough…especially time.

But we get it as we go. Time. Light. Life. Love. Precious moments.

The precious moments. There are miracles in them. Our life is not just meant for us, it’s meant for others who need us more.