Do the Right Thing

“You only live once but if you do it right, once is enough.” -Mae West

At a restaurant we visited, I saw and read this quote which is almost or all aphoristic depending on who you ask. It’s brilliant especially when people get stuck on what’s right on a soul shattering kind of level. Some questions I often ponder are:

Who are you? Who are you surrounded by? Who are you in a process of becoming / evolving?

What do you do for a life and/or a living? What’s your story? What makes you feel alive?

When did you stop doing what you love? When did you start doing what you love?

Where have you been? Where are you going?

Why?

How are you feeling? How are you thinking?

But always remember no matter the questions and conversations, “You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation”. (shout out to Plato!)

So, keep on, keep on playing miraculous humans!

How to Love

Love covers all.

At some point in time, we were all children. Having and or teaching children reminds you of that fact. Sark wrote and tapped into how to really love a child and in turn teaches us how to love ourselves. All of us are miracles. Keeping the gleam and joy and most of all: LOVE.

How to really love anyone including the self comes down to being present not only the presents. One of my favorite books entitled: The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman delves into how to love someone as it is so aptly titled the languages of love.

How do you show someone you love them? Find out their love language(s). Is it acts of service, quality time, physical touch, verbal affirmation and/or gift giving?

And, speak their love language with action and speak your own through action. Celebrate them. Celebrate you. Celebrate Earth. Walt Whitman: I celebrate myself, and sing myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/45477/song-of-myself-1892-version

April Fools or New Year? Discover April Celebrations

Happy New Year! April Fools…not 🙂 really, Happy New Year!

In fact April Fools Day used to be the actual New Year way back in the day. When you think about it…it makes sense. Spring is a time for change and renewal while winter is hibernation and rest. Imagine someone having the power to change the calendar? We do! Power is with the people.

April is the month where many countries keep the rhythm with cyclical time and bring in the new year. Several countries in Southeast and South Asia, primarily those using lunisolar calendars, celebrate New Year in April. These include Thailand, Cambodia, Myanmar, Laos, and various regions of India, including Nepal, Sri Lanka, and Bangladesh

Here’s a more detailed look:

These April New Year celebrations often involve water splashing (Songkran), feasting, and paying respects to elders, as well as other cultural traditions specific to each region.

We’re bringing in the New Year! Water tag!

Happy splashing. Happy renewal. Wash away worries and live life with purpose, on purpose!

Spark Joy

Have you ever noticed how a child’s face will come alive when they are doing something they love and enjoy? Even grown ups will light up when they are doing something they love.

People who love what they do and love who they are don’t take vacations from it or from themselves. It lights a fire within sparking up a joy that cannot ever be contained. In life, humans light each other up along the way like lining up dominoes and with one gentle nudge, each domino knocks into the other crashing and cascading down. Or like Pringos, “Once you pop, you can’t stop!” LOL

No one can ever take that purpose away once ignited. It cannot be faked, copied, or even categoried <– made up word. Be you and pass on your light of being. The greatest gift is the gift of oneself. One’s own transformation and change.

Who are you? Who are you becoming?

What are you?

When were you? When are you?

Where were you and where are you?

Why are you?

How are you?

Be and become. The light. The love. The joy. The hiccups. haha

Calling for a new Prescription: Playtime

Children should at least get 3 hours a day outside to play not in front of screens or constantly listening to lectures. (Yes screens when used appropriately and lectures each have their own respective places). However, I (we) am/are calling for some tune ups in our public school schedules as well as curriculums. The amount of children in our society who lose focus, have increased behavioral problems, diagnoses for all of these “labels” is truly astronomical. Our school is a microcosm of what is happening nationally. Every year should not get more challenging for a school and its teachers / administrators / leadership. We need to rise to this challenge and return to basics. Do you remember playing as a child? At home and at the schoolyard? How much time did you have? How about the games you played in your childhood? Tag, freeze tag, races, hide and seek, Mr. wolf/fox, climbing trees, rolling all around, creative and sustained imaginative play … so much happens for children during this process of play. And, truthfully speaking, grown ups need a little folly in their lives, too as Erasmus well put it. Without it we are walking shells of a human. Children are showing us what they need. Some are loud about it and some are quiet about it. No one wants to sound, be or be remembered like the teacher (or parent) in Charlie Brown.

We are society and can change it. We know and are aware as educators about true and real life child development. The stages we all learned about and went through ourselves as children: Sensorimotor, pre-operational, concrete and formal. We need more playtime not more screen time / not more memorization/rote learning not curriculum that is abstract and out of touch with real children and how they learn. When it comes to testing and what a child “knows” we need both objective and subjective. We are all human. We need brain breaks. “Coffee breaks” for grown ups and “Energy” breaks for children.

We do not need more regulations or checklists…teachers, families and our schools are communities of “life-long”-curious-engaged learning. Should feel joy and fun coupled with respect, responsibility and a life-long readiness to learn and have curiosity. We all want what is best for our children / our future. Three hours of focusing on “school work” without a brain break knowing humans tend to lose focus most easily (in five minutes) especially when they are tired, stressed, experiencing distractions in their environment, performing repetitive tasks, or when dealing with complex information for extended periods of time. It is a lot we are requiring of our children. We have to be the change we wish to see in this world as Gandhi put it.

There truly needs to be a tune up. As a community school we can be a model for what real life / engaged learning embodies, looks and feels like. Children (truly, all of us) learn by doing and being active, engaged participants not passive observers. Using what they learn to apply it in real life / challenges is the best gift that we can give and bestow upon our children/our future who we pass the mic too. Here are several articles that I hope inspire you.

https://outwardbound.org/blog/how-much-outside-time-a-day-is-recommended-for-kids/


https://hechingerreport.org/want-resilient-and-well-adjusted-kids-let-them-play/


https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/power-of-play/Pages/the-power-of-play-how-fun-and-games-help-children-thrive.aspx

Ps. Feel free to share this with your schools. Peace, love, joy, compassion and light. Your way, always.

How Imagination Shapes Children’s Costumes

How cool is the above picture? It’s AI generated. How neat is it that the opportunity exists to create costume ideas using AI? BUT You know what’s even cooler? Our children’s imaginations. Imagination is more important than knowledge [and AI] (shoutout to Einstein)!

For Halloween and in daily life our son wanted to dress in all black to be the night. His plan is to become completely dark. How amazingly, incredibly and phenomenally cool is that? Our children’s imaginations leave such an impression on me.

He changed his mind several times as he thinks about what he wants to be. In the grand scheme of things, the Mario costume we got has nothing on being the night.

Dramatic play is truly an incredible way to play and engage especially when it comes to children’s development. Let them imagine all year round.

As Johnny Depp said something like this when it comes to being an actor, “Being able to play pretend for life is the best career anyone can have.”

Children get to do that (not only) on Halloween but for childhood and perhaps, even beyond.

Ps. “You can find out more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation” -Plato

Let’s Get Out of the Way

Remember playing when you thought no one was looking? How did you feel? The freedom? The boredom? Making up unique games. The risk-taking. Facing challenges. Realizing that chanting “I think I can” works and just when you thought you couldn’t, you did it!

That’s what happens when we get out of the way of our children. In fact, we get out of the way of our own selves, too. Let them live and enjoy childhood. Let us enjoy, too! Life. Life is for living not dying. Living the adventures of it all and perhaps, that will carry us all forward into their grown up years and our grown up years continued.

Three Gifts: Time, Talent and Treasure

Out of the three gifts we all possess, this little blog nugget will center on: the gift of time.

Please take a moment and take at least twenty minutes today and each day to do something with your kiddo. No commands, no goals, just be present in the moment. Give the gift of time and presence. We are here to become memories for them.

Shhhhh. Do not give directions. Be quiet and follow their lead. Listen. Actively listen. Really and truly listen. No interruptions. Just be in the moment. No questions asked.

Play, be in the moment.

Is my Jacket Expensive?

Let’s talk. Wealth. Rich and Poor. While we teach our children to value what is inside of themselves: the who of what they are. Their being. Their essence. Others from outside will influence them or try to belittle them or what they care about at times, without even knowing it themselves. It tugs at their heart and their soul. Ours, too, just a little bit until we get the jolt back into what matters most. People. Relationships. Experiences. Memories. Time. Talent. Treasure.

Our son asked, “Hey mom, is my jacket expensive?” Quite frankly, it doesn’t even matter. These things, no matter the cost won’t matter in the next five minutes or even in the next five years. If it won’t matter in the next minutes, months or even years: who cares. It’s not the jacket but the memories we make in it that truly matter. While most of society will try to convince you that your worth is determined by what you have on, in real real reality, it doesn’t. What your life depends on is who you are, who you surround yourself with and what you care about. So, take care of yourself, others and your surroundings/your space then it ripples outward and onward changing lives for the better.

So, how much does your life cost? How much value and worth? Are you living poor in mindset? Have the courage to change it before it’s far too late. Don’t live for a too die for house. Don’t live for a too die for car.

Live for a too die for life.

Collect memories. Not things. Collect the times. Spend time well. Treasure it. We all have time, talent and treasure. It is how you define it. No one else. Love life. Live it well. Make it a life well spent. Spend life well. The currency is always strong when passionately and poetically lived.

Deck the Halls with Lots of Love and Play

Need ideas for the holiday season? When I am fresh out of ideas, I tend to start with the people and places we love. Whether near or far, inspiration can be found everywhere and lead to anywhere.  

We were counting all of the letters of the alphabet. I hear, “Mom, I love you, all the letters of the alphabet.”

Love is everywhere. In little moments and in the meaningful conversations whether we know in the moment they are meaningful or not. Even “small talk” could lead to “big talk”. In fact, it is all big in the grand scheme of this one precious and wild life.

The timeless adage still rings true. Don’t spend money. Spend time. Time with those you love. What is at the core of each and every single one of us is this: Time, Talent and Treasure.

Ask those you love what they would love to do with the time you all have? Dare yourself to be pulled into the moment.

They and it will all surprise you. When we ask…, we get at that heart of what the other person cares about.

Some ideas, actions and answers that sprang up and out of boredom and inspired by an ask of:

Q: “What do you want to do?”

A: “I want to go to the car wash!”

A: “Let’s count the stars.”

A: “Write a book.”

A: “Watch tv”

A: “Can we add soap to the trampoline and jump?! Soap party!”

A: “Make a cat house?!”

A: “Play a game” (ie board game or action packed game of tag!)

A: “Play chase us with the remote control cars!”

A: “Ride our go karts.”

A: “I want to make a fart fort!”

A: “I want a piggy back ride!”

A: “I want to fight!”

A: “I want to climb.”

A: “I want to roll!”

A: “I want to swing!”

A: “Knock, knock…(I want to laugh!)”

…the answers are endless. Let it be. Let them play. Let yourself play. Shhhh, listen, let them tell you. Open your eyes, let them show you. Open your arms. Hug it out. xoxoxo

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